“Don’t show off, it’s unattractive.”
“It’s not nice to tell people you’re good at something.”
“Be humble!”
Many of us, especially women, were taught from childhood to be quiet about our achievements. Our parents and teachers may have meant well but it has had a very unfortunate effect: our invisibility means we lose out on opportunities.
The World Has Changed
In the past, we stuck to one career, with one
or two employers, and often in the same town.
Today, we live in a global society.
Today we are constantly connecting with new roles, bosses, stakeholders, and companies. We can’t expect them to know us, the world is too big.
So what happens?
They check around to see who’s about – and the attention is taken up by those
who are most visible.
We Know It’s True — But It’s Still Hard
We know it’s true, we see it and yet, it can be hard to motivate ourselves to shine in public.
When I talk to clients, I often hear fear:
“What if people criticize?”
“What if they think I’m arrogant?”
“But I’m not clever enough!”
These fears are real, and they’re not a sign of weakness — they’re proof that you were trained to put others first.
Ask Yourself This
I suggest this: who benefits when you take
up less space?
Exactly.
You owe it to yourself to shine so you can have proper opportunities.
Start Small — Build Confidence
You can tame nerves with slow and sure exposure.
- Kick off by commenting on a few posts.
- Then repost something you see and like.
- Work up to posting a picture with a caption.
- And when you’re ready, write a post.
You can do it!
Need Support?
And if you need support, I can help. I work with people just like you — smart, capable, and ready to stop hiding.
