Understanding Abuse (6-Part Series)

Understanding Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Breaking the Cycle (6-Part Series) 

Abuse is never simple — and it’s never just about anger or cruelty. 

Learn how to escape and thrive

I’m Ellen Whyte, BSc Psych (Hons), MCouns (Dist) — a psychotherapist with 10 years’ experience and 500+ abuse cases across more than 20 countries. I work exclusively online with adults, helping them understand and recover from emotional abuse, manipulation, and control - whether they’ve lived through it or caused it.

Abuse isn’t about losing your temper. It’s a pattern of control that builds quietly until it feels impossible to escape — or to stop. This six-part series shares practical, therapy-tested insights that can help you begin to heal or make real change.

What this series covers

• How does this happen? — the hidden patterns of control and grooming.
• Why are some people abusive? — motives, learned behaviour, and denial.
• Do we have to split up? — making safe, realistic choices.
• Why can’t I just walk away? — trauma bonding, fear, and attachment.
• Why can’t I see through this awful behaviour? — denial, gaslighting, and cognitive traps.
• Can people change? — when accountability and therapy make a difference.

Whether you’re trying to recover from abuse or stop repeating abusive patterns, this series offers clear, evidence-informed guidance and practical next steps.

Need confidential, professional support?
Email: ellen.whyte@gmail.com
WhatsApp: +44 7514 408143

The Truth About Abuse #1 — What It Really Is And How It Works

The Truth About Abuse #2 — No Bruises? It’s Still Abuse

The Truth About Abuse #3 — Why Some People Choose To Be Abusive

The Truth About Abuse #4 —You Can’t ‘Work On It’ Together. Why Abuse Isn’t A “Relationship Problem” You Can Fix As A Couple, And Why Couples Therapy May Be Actively Dangerous.

The Truth About Abuse #5 — Why Leaving Is So Hard (And Why You Keep Going Back)

Be the best you, live your best life

The Truth About Abuse #6 — You Don't 'Attract' Abusers. Why It's Not Your Fault And Never Has Been.

Abuse is complex but you can heal. It’s easier with professional help. I offer specialised trauma therapy to clients internationally, working online. 

Ready to break free for good? To be the best you living your best life? Message me today via email ellen.whyte@gmail.com or WhatsApp: +44 7514 408143 for your free 15-minute consultation.